The gym is a place where a hardened, isolating masculinity can be shed – along with our preconceptions about how we need to look or be in the world – in favour of something greater, something vulnerable and meaningful.
How these animated men simultaneously represent fatherhood and fatness – as well as how weight in general is treated as an ongoing plot device in these shows – mirrors the culture/time they originate from.
We need to work out why men are being violent at an individual level. To do this we need to get to know abusive men.
There is a tendency to treat these issues as individual problems, but there is much value in thinking about how our desires are shaped by the society in which we live.