The socio-historical link between men and alcohol was not a new trend brought on by the war; the war merely served to reinforce it. And this acquired connection between alcohol, violence and masculinity follows us to this day.
Alcohol was the scaffolding I used to support my transition into manhood. It helped me to deal with the frightening reality of the world and my changing place within it. … As fun as the good times were, I wish I could’ve found another way.
Any time it seemed like I was choosing a way out, it would be about standing behind the discomfort … We’re trying to be activists here, we’re into social change, so we have to go darker and deeper.
Although Ford’s book is a fire-tongued diagnosis of today’s gendered imbalances, it constructs this narrative by reducing masculinity, and men, to simple wholes.
Learning to move into our own masculinity, and the femininity that’s a part of it, is something that’s worth doing for others, in order to relax, to find what our bodies want to do, free from social preconceptions.
When you start thinking about gender in relation to dating apps, especially ones as ubiquitous as Tinder and Bumble, the big ideas are right there in front of you.
It was on the third hour, when my friend saw me opening the app for the tenth time, that I realised something wasn’t quite right.