I rarely see acknowledgment of the fact that it’s not just being fat or skinny that requires acceptance, but every interstitial space in the range of unique bodies we inhabit.
If, like many Australians, you enjoy a beer, then rest assured that politicians like Scott Morrison, because they enjoy a beer too, are regular Aussie blokes like you.
The socio-historical link between men and alcohol was not a new trend brought on by the war; the war merely served to reinforce it. And this acquired connection between alcohol, violence and masculinity follows us to this day.
Alcohol was the scaffolding I used to support my transition into manhood. It helped me to deal with the frightening reality of the world and my changing place within it. … As fun as the good times were, I wish I could’ve found another way.
Any time it seemed like I was choosing a way out, it would be about standing behind the discomfort … We’re trying to be activists here, we’re into social change, so we have to go darker and deeper.
Although Ford’s book is a fire-tongued diagnosis of today’s gendered imbalances, it constructs this narrative by reducing masculinity, and men, to simple wholes.
Learning to move into our own masculinity, and the femininity that’s a part of it, is something that’s worth doing for others, in order to relax, to find what our bodies want to do, free from social preconceptions.