The only way to ensure that there are no blurred lines is to choose to actively listen to what your partner is saying: both with their words and with their body.
Perhaps the most dangerous appeal of the controlling, possessive, jealous Alpha hero is the idea that I could be the woman to tame him.
Paul Mitchell is a writer, poet, author and academic whose work interrogates Australian masculinity, violence and the ways people can heal.
I’ve heard music like this but never seen a man who isn’t watching football so excited. The way Wayne describes it, the album could be a religious artefact. But I don’t understand any of the words he’s using to describe it, nor the lyrics: “All the young girls love Alice, tender young Alice they say …”
We went home and snuggled in bed, catching up. It felt great. It was then that she told me she’d had sex with another guy. Two nights ago. In the very bed we were in now.
When your partner’s the same gender as you, one thing you’re gifted is a blank slate. Cleaning the gutters, ironing, taking the car for a service, buying sheets—it’s all up for grabs. And that’s what Alex sees.