The socio-historical link between men and alcohol was not a new trend brought on by the war; the war merely served to reinforce it. And this acquired connection between alcohol, violence and masculinity follows us to this day.
Alcohol was the scaffolding I used to support my transition into manhood. It helped me to deal with the frightening reality of the world and my changing place within it. … As fun as the good times were, I wish I could’ve found another way.
By acting like one of the boys I climbed up through the hierarchy. I earned a seat at the table and had a voice in creating menus and running the kitchen. But I paid a hefty price.
For Whitman, camaraderie isn’t just a matter of sharing your goals and working together, nor is it just talking out loud about your feelings. It’s about sharing the very essence of yourself.
Perhaps the most dangerous appeal of the controlling, possessive, jealous Alpha hero is the idea that I could be the woman to tame him.
We went home and snuggled in bed, catching up. It felt great. It was then that she told me she’d had sex with another guy. Two nights ago. In the very bed we were in now.
While we discuss and debate our diverse cultural and personal constructions of masculinity, it’s worth bearing in mind that the evolutionary evidence also suggests a certain fluidity. What it means to be a man has changed, across history and prehistory, in both cultural and biological terms.