By acting like one of the boys I climbed up through the hierarchy. I earned a seat at the table and had a voice in creating menus and running the kitchen. But I paid a hefty price.
For Whitman, camaraderie isn’t just a matter of sharing your goals and working together, nor is it just talking out loud about your feelings. It’s about sharing the very essence of yourself.
Perhaps the most dangerous appeal of the controlling, possessive, jealous Alpha hero is the idea that I could be the woman to tame him.
We went home and snuggled in bed, catching up. It felt great. It was then that she told me she’d had sex with another guy. Two nights ago. In the very bed we were in now.
While we discuss and debate our diverse cultural and personal constructions of masculinity, it’s worth bearing in mind that the evolutionary evidence also suggests a certain fluidity. What it means to be a man has changed, across history and prehistory, in both cultural and biological terms.
As much as we shape cartoons in our image, they shape our concepts of ourselves. This is why animated television is such prime territory for understanding our relationship to the concept of fatherhood.
He didn’t have to do anything that day in Chile, but my uncle took time out of his life to take care of me. A child is raised by the community, and a boy learns to be a man from the men around him.