After a hefty break, the podcast is finally back! And what a topic is fatherhood. Especially as we happened to be talking about it without even thinking about the relative proximity of Father’s Day.
What actually inspired this topic was a notable online outcropping of what Glen Martin, our guest and co-host on this episode, refers to as ‘daddy bloggers’. They’re probably best exemplified by this guy: Everyday Girl Dad. His pride in his self-possessed daughter, his desire for her to be whatever she wants, and the marriage of his personal progressive politics with his fathering style really capture an event of the moment. Namely, how socially progressive politics come together around men raising empowered women.
Which, basically, is great.
But, I thought, what about how those same ideals come together around boys? Luckily for me, Glen is a father of two, a boy and a girl, so this episode we’re using Glen’s experiences as a lens through which to look at how progressive politics, masculinity and societal pressures come together in his experience of fatherhood of both boys and girls.
We talk about how kids are incredibly singular in ways that defy socialisation theories; about what love looks like between a father and a son and how people are taken aback by it; and about how the absence of shame, and the capacity to cope with adversity from all comers, might (just might) lie at the heart of a better approach to parenting.
As per usual, Glen’s very giving, shall we say, with his references. This article is the one by Charlie Brooker that Glen mentions, on how parenting is a singular experience and you should ignore all the prescriptive bullshit that gets thrown at you in the months before a baby is born. And this is the one on video game designer Zoë Quinn, the woman at the centre of #Gamergate, and what her life is like after that downright traumatic affair. Glen’s daughter also happened to fill out a “My Daddy” information sheet, though, which makes for slightly lighter reading, and is only innacurate on the count that Glen does not like going to work.